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Non-Attachment
Consider the state of Being where you are aware of desire for something and simultaneously the error of seeking pleasure in materiality. This is an act of untying the knot in finding true compassion through sharing of the world around us. To be mindful while eating a delicious piece of chocolate cake with a dear friend all the while feeling the indwelling presence of God which produces the incredible taste, the essence of Love with your friend and the overall joy of the moment. The inner fount of joy is never lost. That joy is experienced in the center of all activities.
The Contemplative Marriage
If you are not feeling loving, or peaceful or joyful then you are living in the “self”. The self tricks us into being upset because our beloved is not acting correctly. We fall out of a space of unconditional love and either attack or pull away. That is the moment that we can realize we are stepping outside of a spiritually focused marriage. So much of our behavior as a couple is projecting and blaming. Become committed to putting the Divine first in your relationship. Make your marriage contemplative. Get quiet, fill you heart with God’s love and only then share your feelings from a contemplative stance. Where does joy come from? Yes, from Christ, from Buddha consciousness, right within us.
Prayer and Meditation for Couples
The best part of couple prayer is spending quiet time with the Lord and with your spouse. This is the time of silent meditation. This is what Jesus was doing in the early mornings on the mountainside: communing with God!! The intention of connection with God in stillness allows the Holy Spirit to heal our deeper mind. We are not able to do this on our own. Try this a few times with your mate and feel the energy in stillness. You don’t talk when you kiss! Relationship with our mate and God is passionate. Words don’t convey the meaning. Allow God to love you in silence. Feel the connection with your mate in silence.
Meditation: Silent Prayer
Meditation is very simple. Meditation is the process of quieting the mind which allows our little self, our worries and concerns, to take a break. As our mind quiets, our true Self can emerge. God can express Himself in our world. Our agitated mind is constantly dwelling on the past, reacting to some event in our world or preoccupied with concerns about the future. These worries of our fearful self, like wind on a lake, keep our mind stirred up and keep us removed from the Peace of God. Quietness is the secret to deepening the connection and relationship with the Divine.